Most people at some point of time or the other go through a difficult period in their relationship. No matter how hard you try, the rift seems to get bigger and bigger and finally, you call it quits. It does not have to end this way.
There are ways to fix a relationship and all it requires is a genuine effort to make a change. If you and your spouse are on the brink of a breakup or have already broken up but still have feelings for each other, then this article might be able to help you.
- If you have been disagreeing lately and each discussion has turned into a shouting match, you need to find out why. There is a definite reason or maybe more than one reason for all the trouble in your relationship. Identifying those points of departure in opinion is important.
- A broken relationship normally means neither of you are listening to the other. The key to effective communication does not mean being very eloquent about how you feel but chiefly lies in listening to what the other is saying.
- If you have begun to talk in more civil tones, try and figure out whether the relationship has actually run its course or whether the two of you are just stressed out and need a short break away from the other.
- If you want this relationship to work, you have to stop trying to change your spouse and start changing yourself. It is the surest signal for him/her to understand that you are making an effort and hopefully, he/she will get the hint and follow.
- Try to do little things to make your other half happy. Small gestures of thoughtfulness and love can go a long way in repairing any rifts in a relationship.
- Give time for the relationship to heal and don’t force your ideas on him/her.
Tips and Warnings
- Don’t turn arguments ugly by recalling past incidents or pointing out faults. This will only make the situation more unpleasant.
- If you have been spending too much time apart, go on a well-deserved vacation and spend some quality time together.
- You can also try relationship counseling. Sometimes, it helps to have a neutral party hear both sides of the story.