All romantic relationships have their ups and downs, some more downs than others. When things don’t work out for too long, a breakup is often inevitable. If you’ve just been through a breakup, I imagine it must be difficult to cope with how you feel.
On one hand, you may be glad the arguments are over while on the other, you may miss having someone special in your life. These sort of mixed feelings may make it difficult for you to make sense of your breakup. It is hard to analyze things when you’re feeling low but sometimes, that’s what it takes to feel better and move on.
- A break-up happens for a reason. Focus on that reason to understand why your relationship turned out this way. Have you been spending too much time away from each other and have eventually grown apart? Was he or she cheating on you? Did you want more space in the relationship? Once you realize why you broke up in the first place, you may feel that things have worked out for the best.
- Be happy for the times you have shared and the things you have learnt from each other. Don’t simply dwell on the bad stuff that happened.
- A break-up is always a blessing in disguise and your ticket out of a bad relationship. If he or she was a loser and made you miserable, then quit moping because there are definitely better things in the offing.
- Now that it’s over, maybe you can finally settle down to thinking of what’s best for you. When you’re in a relationship, you tend to make decisions based on what your partner thinks or feels and always ask for his or her opinion. Once you’ve broken up, you can be your own person again.
- Don’t play the blame game. You cannot make sense of your breakup if you feel everything was your ex’s fault (unless of course it actually was). Maybe you both made mistakes. Now all that remains is to pick yourself off the floor and get going again.
- Talk to a close friend or family member. Sometimes, they will be able to see what you cannot see yourself. Many great relationships are broken off for strange reasons and not everyone can make out what those are. It’s easier if you have a neutral party who can listen and point out what went wrong. At any rate, it always helps to have a shoulder to cry on.
- A break-up is not the end of the world. It also does not mean that you are bad at relationships. It simply means that your ex and you were not compatible i.e. the two of you were not right for each other.
Tips and Warnings
- Be angry, let it all out, crib, cry and be done with it. Pump out those negative feelings. Don’t let then boil and fester inside you.
- It’s okay to feel sad and upset. You’re only human. Just don’t allow yourself to hurt for too long.
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